So these are the ways to be happy. This is happiness for the soul. This is what everyone needs. Love. Love is the nourishment of the soul. You can never be fulfilled, you can never be happy without it, never be satisfied without it. <\/p>\n
And dissatisfaction is so present in our life. No matter what we get in the material world, we are not satisfied. We get all the objects, we get the cars and houses, all the money, and the fame, whatever we get. We got all the goodies, we are not satisfied. It didn\u2019t satisfy. We thought it would. We worked so hard to get it. We thought when we get it, we would be satisfied. We are not. And then we try to get more and more and more, change it, \u201cOh, this used to make me happy, it doesn\u2019t. I will just get something else.\u201d It is just ongoing. It doesn\u2019t stop because that doesn\u2019t satisfy the soul. <\/p>\n
We are spirit soul, if we were the material body, then the game we play, they will probably work for some people, but they don\u2019t because we are not the body. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important to know who we are. If I don\u2019t know who I am, then I don\u2019t know what to do with my life. I know I must love that\u2019s why I want to love, but I don\u2019t know anything about the subject. So I just go out and lust this, and lust that, and lust something else. And I go through my whole life like that, I die and I start all over next life. Nothing really changes. It\u2019s just a repetition of the same game. <\/p>\n
I hear people all the time saying, \u201cBut I do have someone I really love.\u201d Ok, we will accept that, no problem, but it is temporary. When you get married one of the vows that you take is: I will love you until death do us part. So it is built-in that we have to leave each other. I love you and you love me, it is all ongoing, ongoing but I am going to die and I am going to leave you, or you are going to die and you will leave me. So the love is over. <\/p>\n
That is why, you know, death of the loved one is the most painful experience in life because it breaks our heart, because we gave our heart to this person. And maybe they gave their heart to us so we were totally committed to each other, but we have to separate and death is so, so painful. It destroys our life. People say after a loved one like this dies, \u201cI have no reason to live. My life has been taken away. It ripped my heart out,\u201d and on, and on it goes. <\/p>\n
So that is not really the solution. We don\u2019t want to spend this lifetime and other lifetimes running around looking for a perfect person to love, because they don\u2019t exist in this world. <\/p>\n
That Person who we are designed to really love and really have this beautiful exchange with is God Himself. He doesn\u2019t die. (laughs) It is not a temporary affair, it is never ever over. And He doesn\u2019t run off for somebody else and leave us behind. I don\u2019t have to worry, \u201cUh-oh, He is going to find somebody else, He doesn\u2019t love me anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n
He loves me and you, and you, and you, everybody. And you are very happy about that, you know that, you are comfortable with that. You don\u2019t have to worry about He doesn\u2019t love me because it is built-in that He automatically loves us eternally. He is the all-loving Supreme Father. He loves all of His children, not just a select few, everybody. I don\u2019t have to worry about, \u201cOh, I love Him but He doesn\u2019t love me\u201d which is one of the big problems in these lust relationships, \u201cI love him but he doesn\u2019t love me.\u201d So what do you do?
\n\u2013 Why don\u2019t you ever tell me you love me?
\n\u2013 I always tell you I love you. You never tell me you love me!
\nAnybody ever heard that? Sound familiar? (laughs)
\n\u2013 Ok, I love you!
\n\u2013 Oh, good. Do you really mean it? (laughs) Why don\u2019t you tell me this more often?
\n\u2013 Oh God! What do you want, man? I have just told you.
\nYou know, and then we go\u2026 (beating sounds)
\n\u2013 (With harsh voice) You don\u2019t really love me. I saw you were looking at somebody else.<\/p>\n
Really, really stressful, really, really painful, see. It is really, really agitating, no satisfaction, no security, there is no security here. So we are always afraid, fear is encompassing all of these affairs. Fear that I won\u2019t get the one I want to love. Then I get them, I am afraid I will lose them. Then I lose them, oh, another pain. No matter which way it works, it is the same story. <\/p>\n
So that is the material world. We have to get out of the material world. And you can get out of the material world while still in these material bodies, living in the material dimension. How? By developing that loving relationship with God. And that is the whole process of bhakti yoga. That is the whole process. That is what is taught. There is a formula, there is practice, there are activities that cultivate this relationship. <\/p>\n
We already have it. It is already there but we forgot that. It is a lost relationship. It is like if you have a relationship with someone in this world, but you have lost it. It is still there. <\/p>\n
A good friend of mine had a daughter. But the daughter\u2019s mother was pregnant and they split before the child was ever born. So he never saw his daughter. But he knew he had one. They never met. Then when his daughter was, I think, 26 years old, I forget how it happened, but somehow they reconnected, they found each other. They had never seen each other before but he was her dad and she was his daughter, the relationships were there. <\/p>\n
So then they were so happy and they started communicating and visiting each other. She had all kinds of problems. He is married and has another child from another woman, but he was so happy that he could help his daughter who needed help financially and she had some kind of health problems. But he was so happy to help. She had a kid or two and we wanted to help the kid. And he was right into the whole relationship thing and he was finding so much happiness, just because now he can give something, you see. <\/p>\n
And then about one or a couple years ago I saw him walking down the street with his daughter and his daughter\u2019s husband and a baby stroller, and there was a little baby there. Oh, he has a granddaughter, \u201cOh, come on over here, I will just show you my granddaughter!\u201d He was so proud, \u201cLook at this.\u201d He was so happy. See, it is the relationship that made him happy. What to speak about this perfect relationship with the Perfect Person? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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